Wish you all a very happy Mahalaya
May Maa Durga Enter your Home and your Life
Mahalaya is an auspicious occasion observed seven days before the Durga Puja, and heralds the advent of Durga, the goddess of supreme power. It's a kind of invocation or invitation to the mother goddess to descend on earth - "Jago Tumi Jago". Goddess Durga visits the earth for only four days but seven days prior to the Pujas, starts the Mahalaya. This is done through the chanting of mantras and singing devotional songs & the day thus marking the beginning of "devipaksha" and the beginning of the count-down of Durga Puja.
The day of Mahalaya is also the ‘day of remembrance’. On this day, people offer 'tarpan' in memory of their deceased forefathers. The banks of River ‘Ganga’ become sea of humanity. Priests are seen busy performing 'Tarpan' for devotees in groups. The rituals start from early dawn and end during the midday. Devotees and worshipers buy clothes and sweets to offer to their forefathers.
Saturday, September 27, 2008
GROWING TERRORISM
The Terrorist Next-door !!!!!!
The increasing frequency of terrorist attacks,and the constant threats,are not only scary but very disheartening.And the scenario becomes very grim and even more disappointing to learn that the people involved are almost next door neighbors!(cover story THE WEEK,September 28,2008)
This upsurge of terrorism,amongst the common man,living next door,is not very surprising.Religion has always been blamed and considered as the main cause of terrorism,but the present trend of terrorism in India show more of a socio-economic divide as the route cause of the increasing terrorism,more so from the local population.It is a battle of the underprivileged against the rest of the country,and its just co-incidental that most of these happen to be from a particular religion!
The story seems to have started more than five decades back,and is erupting now.Low socioeconomic status and lack of proper education lead to resorting to labor related jobs.The low income along with larger number of children compared to rest of the population,added to the crisis,leading to more mouths to be fed with less resources.This predictably,lead to further less education and early induction into jobs.The nature of education and inadequate qualifications,prevented the next generation from coming into the main stream with better jobs and elevation of social standards.This lead to a vicious cycle,poverty and lack of proper education,more children,early induction into low paying jobs leading to further poverty.
But no where can the Government or any religious group be blamed for this.While no active measures may have been taken to give reservations or create special job vacancies,there was no hindrance or reservations or discrimination against them for education or jobs either.If anything that can be blamed is their socio cultural and religious trends and beliefs that may have resulted in this wide contrast between the social status,job profiles,education and income of most of them and the majority of the rest of the progressing country.This self created disparity has lead to an frustration,which is erupting terrorism in an rage of anger
The battle is not religious,but that of fanatics with a non progressive mindset against the common man and that of the vindictive terrorist against the peace loving citizen of the country
Its only they themselves,with the help of politicians who can bridge this gap,and I pray they do it fast,to bring the peaceful normalcy back in our lives
Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
The increasing frequency of terrorist attacks,and the constant threats,are not only scary but very disheartening.And the scenario becomes very grim and even more disappointing to learn that the people involved are almost next door neighbors!(cover story THE WEEK,September 28,2008)
This upsurge of terrorism,amongst the common man,living next door,is not very surprising.Religion has always been blamed and considered as the main cause of terrorism,but the present trend of terrorism in India show more of a socio-economic divide as the route cause of the increasing terrorism,more so from the local population.It is a battle of the underprivileged against the rest of the country,and its just co-incidental that most of these happen to be from a particular religion!
The story seems to have started more than five decades back,and is erupting now.Low socioeconomic status and lack of proper education lead to resorting to labor related jobs.The low income along with larger number of children compared to rest of the population,added to the crisis,leading to more mouths to be fed with less resources.This predictably,lead to further less education and early induction into jobs.The nature of education and inadequate qualifications,prevented the next generation from coming into the main stream with better jobs and elevation of social standards.This lead to a vicious cycle,poverty and lack of proper education,more children,early induction into low paying jobs leading to further poverty.
But no where can the Government or any religious group be blamed for this.While no active measures may have been taken to give reservations or create special job vacancies,there was no hindrance or reservations or discrimination against them for education or jobs either.If anything that can be blamed is their socio cultural and religious trends and beliefs that may have resulted in this wide contrast between the social status,job profiles,education and income of most of them and the majority of the rest of the progressing country.This self created disparity has lead to an frustration,which is erupting terrorism in an rage of anger
The battle is not religious,but that of fanatics with a non progressive mindset against the common man and that of the vindictive terrorist against the peace loving citizen of the country
Its only they themselves,with the help of politicians who can bridge this gap,and I pray they do it fast,to bring the peaceful normalcy back in our lives
Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
Thursday, September 25, 2008
IS VIRGINITY DEAD ???
VIRGINITY REVISITED!!!!!!!
Shoba De's article Purity rings and Palin's problem (THE WEEK Sept 28,2008)has raised three issues.Was virginity dead?The perils of experimental teenage sex and the need of sex education.
Its heartening to see the welcome comeback of chastity in the western world,and I strongly believe that virginity never died in India and I would rather say that there hasn't been any significant change in the virginity status of the youngsters in the recent years.
Virginity,though always considered to be a middle class issue,has had and has its followers,in significant numbers
Being modern does not mean disregarding virginity!
The youth today is liberated,independent,experimental and adventurous,but the values have not vanished.
In fact the education has given them more discretion and a since of responsibility,not to the society,or the family but to themselves and the partners,and not to forget the health awareness and the scare of AIDS.
Even the young,smart,rich and independent youth,with all opportunities,don't seem to be in a hurry to loose their virginity,they wait for their life partners,and when they do decide on one,then they don't mind waiting till the wedding rings!!
The issue of Palins 17 year old unmarried daughter getting pregnant,is another example of the problems of the increasing experimental teenage sex.My heart bleeds for Palin ,as it would for any mother who has a 17 year old pregnant daughter to handle,and doubly more for Sarah,who is not only pregnant at seventeen,out of experimental teenage sex,but is being asked to have the child,and marry the irresponsible boy,who made her pregnant.And all this since she happens to be a politicians daughter.But even my sincere sympathies for Palin,cannot stop me,from condemning her decision that she is imposing on her daughter.She has proved to be an irresponsible mother,who couldn't guide her daughter well,and now is actually using her as a scapegoat,for her political interests,to force her to be a mother at seventeen,and spend her life with an immature,irresponsible teenager as a husband
Both these issues re enforce the need of sex education.Had Palin,as a mother spent some time with her daughter,she may have been motivated to retain her virginity,and not to indulge in experimental teenage sex,and if she did have to do it,she would have taken necessary precautions,not to get pregnant.
Hope this too big a price being paid by Sarah,for a momentary pleasure serves to be a great deterrent for other teenagers,and an eye opener for parents to be more careful and vigilant
Dr Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
Shoba De's article Purity rings and Palin's problem (THE WEEK Sept 28,2008)has raised three issues.Was virginity dead?The perils of experimental teenage sex and the need of sex education.
Its heartening to see the welcome comeback of chastity in the western world,and I strongly believe that virginity never died in India and I would rather say that there hasn't been any significant change in the virginity status of the youngsters in the recent years.
Virginity,though always considered to be a middle class issue,has had and has its followers,in significant numbers
Being modern does not mean disregarding virginity!
The youth today is liberated,independent,experimental and adventurous,but the values have not vanished.
In fact the education has given them more discretion and a since of responsibility,not to the society,or the family but to themselves and the partners,and not to forget the health awareness and the scare of AIDS.
Even the young,smart,rich and independent youth,with all opportunities,don't seem to be in a hurry to loose their virginity,they wait for their life partners,and when they do decide on one,then they don't mind waiting till the wedding rings!!
The issue of Palins 17 year old unmarried daughter getting pregnant,is another example of the problems of the increasing experimental teenage sex.My heart bleeds for Palin ,as it would for any mother who has a 17 year old pregnant daughter to handle,and doubly more for Sarah,who is not only pregnant at seventeen,out of experimental teenage sex,but is being asked to have the child,and marry the irresponsible boy,who made her pregnant.And all this since she happens to be a politicians daughter.But even my sincere sympathies for Palin,cannot stop me,from condemning her decision that she is imposing on her daughter.She has proved to be an irresponsible mother,who couldn't guide her daughter well,and now is actually using her as a scapegoat,for her political interests,to force her to be a mother at seventeen,and spend her life with an immature,irresponsible teenager as a husband
Both these issues re enforce the need of sex education.Had Palin,as a mother spent some time with her daughter,she may have been motivated to retain her virginity,and not to indulge in experimental teenage sex,and if she did have to do it,she would have taken necessary precautions,not to get pregnant.
Hope this too big a price being paid by Sarah,for a momentary pleasure serves to be a great deterrent for other teenagers,and an eye opener for parents to be more careful and vigilant
Dr Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
Friday, September 12, 2008
Legal Termination of pregnancy
CATCH 22 !!
Strict discipline,many rules and stringent laws force a person to tell lies or to break law!
Since the simplest and easiest solution to most problems often,is not to follow the law!!
Mehtas did not understand this jungle law of our land and had to face the consequences
Instead of going to court for permission,all they had to do was to go to a private clinic for the abortion
( Life Beyond the Writ,OUTLOOK,Aug 18,2008)
But I salute the couple for their courage and initiative which has brought this sensitive issue infront of the whole nation and may lead to a answer for similarly distressed parents in future
I agree that the issue is not straightforward and has become a Catch 22!
Making abortions beyond 20 weeks of pregnancy,legal ,will open a floodgate for unwanted abortions.
But the problem is that chances of potentially lethal or medical problems can usually cannot be diagnosed before this time.
I also agree that this may amount to mercy killing,but there is a major difference,While in mercy killing,the matter may be of weeks or maximum months,here it may be an lifelong issue.
In today's time,when bringing up a healthy normal child is a challenge in itself,raising a medically challenged child is a Herculean task.It is not only physically,financially,mentally and emotionally taxing on the prent,but can be very distressing and painful for the child
The issue needs sincere deliberation and we have to tackle the issue emotionally and with sensitivity,without getting emotional about the 20 weeks pregnancy landmark! Besides the law makers,the medical fraternity have to play a responsible role too,to provide firm and genuine medical reports,highlighting the extent of disability and the probability of chronic medical illness.A mother has all right to prevent the sufferings of her unborn child!
May be the decision of God guide us!!
(Mrs. Mehta aborted few days after the courts verdict against the medical termination of pregnancy)
Dr S Kapoor
Strict discipline,many rules and stringent laws force a person to tell lies or to break law!
Since the simplest and easiest solution to most problems often,is not to follow the law!!
Mehtas did not understand this jungle law of our land and had to face the consequences
Instead of going to court for permission,all they had to do was to go to a private clinic for the abortion
( Life Beyond the Writ,OUTLOOK,Aug 18,2008)
But I salute the couple for their courage and initiative which has brought this sensitive issue infront of the whole nation and may lead to a answer for similarly distressed parents in future
I agree that the issue is not straightforward and has become a Catch 22!
Making abortions beyond 20 weeks of pregnancy,legal ,will open a floodgate for unwanted abortions.
But the problem is that chances of potentially lethal or medical problems can usually cannot be diagnosed before this time.
I also agree that this may amount to mercy killing,but there is a major difference,While in mercy killing,the matter may be of weeks or maximum months,here it may be an lifelong issue.
In today's time,when bringing up a healthy normal child is a challenge in itself,raising a medically challenged child is a Herculean task.It is not only physically,financially,mentally and emotionally taxing on the prent,but can be very distressing and painful for the child
The issue needs sincere deliberation and we have to tackle the issue emotionally and with sensitivity,without getting emotional about the 20 weeks pregnancy landmark! Besides the law makers,the medical fraternity have to play a responsible role too,to provide firm and genuine medical reports,highlighting the extent of disability and the probability of chronic medical illness.A mother has all right to prevent the sufferings of her unborn child!
May be the decision of God guide us!!
(Mrs. Mehta aborted few days after the courts verdict against the medical termination of pregnancy)
Dr S Kapoor
Legal Termination of pregnancy
CATCH 22 !!
Strict discipline,many rules and stringent laws force a person to tell lies or to break law!
Since the simplest and easiest solution to most problems often,is not to follow the law!!
Mehtas did not understand this jungle law of our land and had to face the consequences
Instead of going to court for permission,all they had to do was to go to a private clinic for the abortion
( Life Beyond the Writ,OUTLOOK,Aug 18,2008)
But I salute the couple for their courage and initiative which has brought this sensitive issue infront of the whole nation and may lead to a answer for similarly distressed parents in future
I agree that the issue is not straightforward and has become a Catch 22!
Making abortions beyond 20 weeks of pregnancy,legal ,will open a floodgate for unwanted abortions.
But the problem is that chances of potentially lethal or medical problems can usually cannot be diagnosed before this time.
I also agree that this may amount to mercy killing,but there is a major difference,While in mercy killing,the matter may be of weeks or maximum months,here it may be an lifelong issue.
In today's time,when bringing up a healthy normal child is a challenge in itself,raising a medically challenged child is a Herculean task.It is not only physically,financially,mentally and emotionally taxing on the prent,but can be very distressing and painful for the child
The issue needs sincere deliberation and we have to tackle the issue emotionally and with sensitivity,without getting emotional about the 20 weeks pregnancy landmark! Besides the law makers,the medical fraternity have to play a responsible role too,to provide firm and genuine medical reports,highlighting the extent of disability and the probability of chronic medical illness.A mother has all right to prevent the sufferings of her unborn child!
May be the decision of God guide us!!
(Mrs. Mehta aborted few days after the courts verdict against the medical termination of pregnancy)
Dr Sanjay Kapoor
Strict discipline,many rules and stringent laws force a person to tell lies or to break law!
Since the simplest and easiest solution to most problems often,is not to follow the law!!
Mehtas did not understand this jungle law of our land and had to face the consequences
Instead of going to court for permission,all they had to do was to go to a private clinic for the abortion
( Life Beyond the Writ,OUTLOOK,Aug 18,2008)
But I salute the couple for their courage and initiative which has brought this sensitive issue infront of the whole nation and may lead to a answer for similarly distressed parents in future
I agree that the issue is not straightforward and has become a Catch 22!
Making abortions beyond 20 weeks of pregnancy,legal ,will open a floodgate for unwanted abortions.
But the problem is that chances of potentially lethal or medical problems can usually cannot be diagnosed before this time.
I also agree that this may amount to mercy killing,but there is a major difference,While in mercy killing,the matter may be of weeks or maximum months,here it may be an lifelong issue.
In today's time,when bringing up a healthy normal child is a challenge in itself,raising a medically challenged child is a Herculean task.It is not only physically,financially,mentally and emotionally taxing on the prent,but can be very distressing and painful for the child
The issue needs sincere deliberation and we have to tackle the issue emotionally and with sensitivity,without getting emotional about the 20 weeks pregnancy landmark! Besides the law makers,the medical fraternity have to play a responsible role too,to provide firm and genuine medical reports,highlighting the extent of disability and the probability of chronic medical illness.A mother has all right to prevent the sufferings of her unborn child!
May be the decision of God guide us!!
(Mrs. Mehta aborted few days after the courts verdict against the medical termination of pregnancy)
Dr Sanjay Kapoor
Thursday, September 11, 2008
FLOODS IN BIHAR
WE NEVER LEARN !!!!!!!!!!!!
In spite of repeatedly being shaken by the fury of nature,we never seem to learn!
India has faced several natural calamities,in this decade,Tsunami,Bhuj earthquake,Mumbai Monsoons to name a few and now the deadly floods of Bihar
One very well understands that it is humanly impossible to change the course of the nature,but one totally fails to understand,why can cannot preumpt such calamities and take adequate preventive measures,or provide sufficient and timely relief when the eventuality does occur.
Even after the nerve raking Tandav of monsoon that shook the financial capital of the country,in 2005,and the cores of rupees that were invested to improve the roads and sewage of the city,Mumbai city was paralyzed for short durations every consecutive year,even after mildly excessive rains.
Even after facing such major loses in every calamity,we have failed to have a proper and strong Disaster Management Plan to face the wrath of nature.These bodies or organizations either exist only on paper,or have wasted time and money,only on unrealistic planning.There are four major obstacles in fighting these calamities,The lack of any prediction to the timing or severity of a natural calamity ,well in advance,the ping ponging of the responsibility between the center and the state,the incoordination between the relief providing agencies and finally the corruption in siphoning the funds of relief and compensation ,preventing them from reaching in totality and often even in part,to the effected population on time.
If the government does not wake up,even now,and take significant preumptive and preventive measures,along with adequate relief and rescue operations,we shall continue to have immense losses,not only of land,property and resources but of valuable lives,year after year,as with the changing ecology ,we are getting more and more prone to natural disasters.
What the government needs to do,is to have a realistic National Disaster Management Programme,with sperate sub committees for calamities like,floods,earthquake etc,headed by specialists in those particular fields..These should be having a good support of the concerned departments for timely prediction and a nodal body in every state.The center and the state should have a significant amount of budget earmarked for the planning,prevention and rescue and relief measures during a calamity,annually.Besides realistic planning,there should be a check list of actions and identification of private and government bodies ,both from center and state who can be utilized for adequate and timely relief and rescue measures.
The unimaginable apathy and the repeated slackness of all concerned,makes one wonder if this turning a blind eye,or eleventh hour reaction attitude of the government is a measure to bring down the population?May the losses and tragedy being faced by the people affected by Bihar's worst flood,leave us wiser and determined to fight such calamities,more diligently in future,unless we want to be guilty along with nature ,of the unimaginable loss and innumerable deaths
As a true citizen,let us all respond to this call of humanity,and contribute our little,but significant bit,for the victims of Bihar's Flood
Col Sanjay Kapoor VSM, Lucknow
In spite of repeatedly being shaken by the fury of nature,we never seem to learn!
India has faced several natural calamities,in this decade,Tsunami,Bhuj earthquake,Mumbai Monsoons to name a few and now the deadly floods of Bihar
One very well understands that it is humanly impossible to change the course of the nature,but one totally fails to understand,why can cannot preumpt such calamities and take adequate preventive measures,or provide sufficient and timely relief when the eventuality does occur.
Even after the nerve raking Tandav of monsoon that shook the financial capital of the country,in 2005,and the cores of rupees that were invested to improve the roads and sewage of the city,Mumbai city was paralyzed for short durations every consecutive year,even after mildly excessive rains.
Even after facing such major loses in every calamity,we have failed to have a proper and strong Disaster Management Plan to face the wrath of nature.These bodies or organizations either exist only on paper,or have wasted time and money,only on unrealistic planning.There are four major obstacles in fighting these calamities,The lack of any prediction to the timing or severity of a natural calamity ,well in advance,the ping ponging of the responsibility between the center and the state,the incoordination between the relief providing agencies and finally the corruption in siphoning the funds of relief and compensation ,preventing them from reaching in totality and often even in part,to the effected population on time.
If the government does not wake up,even now,and take significant preumptive and preventive measures,along with adequate relief and rescue operations,we shall continue to have immense losses,not only of land,property and resources but of valuable lives,year after year,as with the changing ecology ,we are getting more and more prone to natural disasters.
What the government needs to do,is to have a realistic National Disaster Management Programme,with sperate sub committees for calamities like,floods,earthquake etc,headed by specialists in those particular fields..These should be having a good support of the concerned departments for timely prediction and a nodal body in every state.The center and the state should have a significant amount of budget earmarked for the planning,prevention and rescue and relief measures during a calamity,annually.Besides realistic planning,there should be a check list of actions and identification of private and government bodies ,both from center and state who can be utilized for adequate and timely relief and rescue measures.
The unimaginable apathy and the repeated slackness of all concerned,makes one wonder if this turning a blind eye,or eleventh hour reaction attitude of the government is a measure to bring down the population?May the losses and tragedy being faced by the people affected by Bihar's worst flood,leave us wiser and determined to fight such calamities,more diligently in future,unless we want to be guilty along with nature ,of the unimaginable loss and innumerable deaths
As a true citizen,let us all respond to this call of humanity,and contribute our little,but significant bit,for the victims of Bihar's Flood
Col Sanjay Kapoor VSM, Lucknow
Wednesday, September 10, 2008
SEX AWARENESS
Sex Education is the need of the hour !
Though its an age of sexplosion,where sex has entered every phase of life,from books to magazines,TV to cinema,music to Internet and even in the common lingo,true knowledge of sex amongst kids and youngsters is far from adequate,and in fact abysmal
There is a significant lack of sexual awareness,even about the basic essentials like,the anatomy,physiology,sexual changes,sexuality,reproduction and contraception,and shockingly this is not only amongst the children of the rural background,but even amongst the educated,gown -ups,marriageable or even married,people,who have access to all the books,literature and the net
And we all are to be blamed for this,as we cannot decide the extent,to which the children are to be made aware of issues pertaining to sex.And we are still debating on issues like,what has to be told to whom,when and by whom!
When denied adequate information,the child,out of sheer curiosity or need,resorts to whatever means available,to obtain sex knowledge The various avenues of information available to the child,are pornographic literature,friends and internet,which at most times are far from adequate or satisfactory. And it is this incomplete and superficial knowledge, that is more dangerous as ignorance or inadequate knowledge leads to more problems.And that is what most of the teenagers or even youngsters have today
Sex education is the need of the hour,and the best people to impart it are parents,teachers or elder family members of the same generation,but has to be done judiciously and cautiously As it is very important to decide, what has to be told, when.
Sex education has to be phased and timed in a manner to enable the child to handle his or her sexuality without anxieties and without getting carried away by the information available on the net or from pornographic literature,and to discourage them from premature experimentation
Since charity begins at home,it hence becomes imperative for us as parents, to impart sufficient and timely sex-education to our children to enable them to handle their sexuality carefully and to be able to take the correct decision at the correct time
Dr Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
Though its an age of sexplosion,where sex has entered every phase of life,from books to magazines,TV to cinema,music to Internet and even in the common lingo,true knowledge of sex amongst kids and youngsters is far from adequate,and in fact abysmal
There is a significant lack of sexual awareness,even about the basic essentials like,the anatomy,physiology,sexual changes,sexuality,reproduction and contraception,and shockingly this is not only amongst the children of the rural background,but even amongst the educated,gown -ups,marriageable or even married,people,who have access to all the books,literature and the net
And we all are to be blamed for this,as we cannot decide the extent,to which the children are to be made aware of issues pertaining to sex.And we are still debating on issues like,what has to be told to whom,when and by whom!
When denied adequate information,the child,out of sheer curiosity or need,resorts to whatever means available,to obtain sex knowledge The various avenues of information available to the child,are pornographic literature,friends and internet,which at most times are far from adequate or satisfactory. And it is this incomplete and superficial knowledge, that is more dangerous as ignorance or inadequate knowledge leads to more problems.And that is what most of the teenagers or even youngsters have today
Sex education is the need of the hour,and the best people to impart it are parents,teachers or elder family members of the same generation,but has to be done judiciously and cautiously As it is very important to decide, what has to be told, when.
Sex education has to be phased and timed in a manner to enable the child to handle his or her sexuality without anxieties and without getting carried away by the information available on the net or from pornographic literature,and to discourage them from premature experimentation
Since charity begins at home,it hence becomes imperative for us as parents, to impart sufficient and timely sex-education to our children to enable them to handle their sexuality carefully and to be able to take the correct decision at the correct time
Dr Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
Tuesday, September 9, 2008
contraversies in mythology
RAM AND SITA( posted be dr rajeev ranjan )
MANY WIVES TO God RAMA!!!!!Mr. C.R. Sreenivasa Iyengar's translation of Valmiki Ramayana says:1.Though Rama had married Sita to be the queen, he married many otherwives for sexual pleasure in accordance with the royal customs (AyothiaKandam 8.. Chapter, Page 28). The term Rama's wives has been usedmany places in Ramayana.HOW God RAMA BROKE THE BOW?The bow that was broken by Rama was Sita's. This bow was already abroken one. (Refer Abidhana Chintamani Paged157,331,57l, 663,894,1151, 1173 and 1494).24. This is supported by various Ramayanas and PrasummHOW God RAMA ENJOYED?God Rama narrated his own brother (Lakshman) how he enjoyed his wifeSita (Kisikinda kandam . Chapter 1 Pages 2,4,5,6 & 7). (For deeney.ssake, we didn.t elaborate these chapters).GOD RAMA SUSPECTED SITA!
God Rama asked Sita.How could Ravana have left you (during these 12years) without being seduced?Sita replied. .True! But what could 1 do? i am only a weaker sex. My bodywas in RAVANA's possession. I did not do anything wrong WILLINGLY.However, mentally I was with you. It was only divine will. But she did notassert herself that .Ravana has not seduced me.. (Uttara Kandam, Chapter118).
GOD RAMA ABANDONED SITA!
Seeing her pregnancy Rama.s doubt increased. Rama asked her toplunge herself into the fire and come out to prove her chastity. Eventhough Sita had under gone this trial prescribed by Rama, yet Ramafound out Sita.s pregnancy. Rama took shelter under the charge made bythe citizen and ordered his brother Lakshman to take Sita to the forestand leave her there. Then Sita showing her abdomen to Lakshmana said,.See my stomach! My pregnancy is four months old. (Uttara Kandam,Chapter 118)SITAS RESPECT TO God RAMA!!!1.Sita told Rama You are no better than a woman monger who lets his wifefor hire and makes his livelihood. You want to be profited by myPROSTITUTION. . Sita also told Rama .You lack impotence manners andcharm.. .She called her husband a simpleton..Sita having scented that Rama was always suspicious of her conductexclaimed .Rama! You are my savior! In none but yourself I repose mylove. This many a time I swear by you; yet you do not believe me!Rama said I tested you. (6,7,8,9,10 & 11 Ayothia Kandam, Chapter 30).2.Rama having in mind her pompousness and fragility of mind directed herthat she should strip off all her ornaments if she were to accompany himthe forest. Sita did accordingly but again she put on some other jewelswithout the knowledge of Rama (Ayothia Kanda, Chapter 30)3. Kausalya who was noticing this advised Sita to behave like a bobble andvirtuous lady. Do not disregarded your husband's worth.. Sita insolentlyreplied to her mother-in-law, .I know all this.. Yet she did not removeher jewels (Ayothia Kandarn, Chapter 37).4. She prayed to the river while crossing it ..Oh! River! If I return safely toayothia I will offer you a thousand cows and a thousand pots of toddy..(Ayothia Kandam, Chapter 52).5. Whenever Rama was languishing in the disappearance of Sita, Lakshmanacasually remarked. .Why do you bother yourself for an ordinary woman?.(Aranya Kandam Chapter 66).6. Lakshxnana expressed that Sita was a woman of questionable character.(Aranya Kandani, Chapter 18).7. When Lakshmana expressed that Sita was a woman of questionablecharacter. (Aranya Kandam, Chapter 18).8. As soon as Sita stepped into Ravana's palace her love towards Ravanagrew more (AranyaKandam, Chapter 54).9. When at length Rama asked Sita to swear, she declined and died. (lttarakandam, Chapter 97).10. Kukuvavthy, sister-in-law of Rama said to him .Oh! Elder! How you loveSita more than you love yourself. Come with me and see what really is inyour lovely wife.s heart. Still she could not forget that fellow Ravana.Drawings picture of Ravana on a hand-fan and pressing it closely to herbreast. She is lying on your bed with eyes closed thinking on andrejoicing at Ravana.s glories. Rama sighed and went out to Sita.sapartment. She was found sleeping pressing her breast the hand-fan inwhich Ravana.s picture was drawn. This is found in pages 199, 200 ofBangali Ramayana written by Mrs. Chandravathi.
MANY WIVES TO God RAMA!!!!!Mr. C.R. Sreenivasa Iyengar's translation of Valmiki Ramayana says:1.Though Rama had married Sita to be the queen, he married many otherwives for sexual pleasure in accordance with the royal customs (AyothiaKandam 8.. Chapter, Page 28). The term Rama's wives has been usedmany places in Ramayana.HOW God RAMA BROKE THE BOW?The bow that was broken by Rama was Sita's. This bow was already abroken one. (Refer Abidhana Chintamani Paged157,331,57l, 663,894,1151, 1173 and 1494).24. This is supported by various Ramayanas and PrasummHOW God RAMA ENJOYED?God Rama narrated his own brother (Lakshman) how he enjoyed his wifeSita (Kisikinda kandam . Chapter 1 Pages 2,4,5,6 & 7). (For deeney.ssake, we didn.t elaborate these chapters).GOD RAMA SUSPECTED SITA!
God Rama asked Sita.How could Ravana have left you (during these 12years) without being seduced?Sita replied. .True! But what could 1 do? i am only a weaker sex. My bodywas in RAVANA's possession. I did not do anything wrong WILLINGLY.However, mentally I was with you. It was only divine will. But she did notassert herself that .Ravana has not seduced me.. (Uttara Kandam, Chapter118).
GOD RAMA ABANDONED SITA!
Seeing her pregnancy Rama.s doubt increased. Rama asked her toplunge herself into the fire and come out to prove her chastity. Eventhough Sita had under gone this trial prescribed by Rama, yet Ramafound out Sita.s pregnancy. Rama took shelter under the charge made bythe citizen and ordered his brother Lakshman to take Sita to the forestand leave her there. Then Sita showing her abdomen to Lakshmana said,.See my stomach! My pregnancy is four months old. (Uttara Kandam,Chapter 118)SITAS RESPECT TO God RAMA!!!1.Sita told Rama You are no better than a woman monger who lets his wifefor hire and makes his livelihood. You want to be profited by myPROSTITUTION. . Sita also told Rama .You lack impotence manners andcharm.. .She called her husband a simpleton..Sita having scented that Rama was always suspicious of her conductexclaimed .Rama! You are my savior! In none but yourself I repose mylove. This many a time I swear by you; yet you do not believe me!Rama said I tested you. (6,7,8,9,10 & 11 Ayothia Kandam, Chapter 30).2.Rama having in mind her pompousness and fragility of mind directed herthat she should strip off all her ornaments if she were to accompany himthe forest. Sita did accordingly but again she put on some other jewelswithout the knowledge of Rama (Ayothia Kanda, Chapter 30)3. Kausalya who was noticing this advised Sita to behave like a bobble andvirtuous lady. Do not disregarded your husband's worth.. Sita insolentlyreplied to her mother-in-law, .I know all this.. Yet she did not removeher jewels (Ayothia Kandarn, Chapter 37).4. She prayed to the river while crossing it ..Oh! River! If I return safely toayothia I will offer you a thousand cows and a thousand pots of toddy..(Ayothia Kandam, Chapter 52).5. Whenever Rama was languishing in the disappearance of Sita, Lakshmanacasually remarked. .Why do you bother yourself for an ordinary woman?.(Aranya Kandam Chapter 66).6. Lakshxnana expressed that Sita was a woman of questionable character.(Aranya Kandani, Chapter 18).7. When Lakshmana expressed that Sita was a woman of questionablecharacter. (Aranya Kandam, Chapter 18).8. As soon as Sita stepped into Ravana's palace her love towards Ravanagrew more (AranyaKandam, Chapter 54).9. When at length Rama asked Sita to swear, she declined and died. (lttarakandam, Chapter 97).10. Kukuvavthy, sister-in-law of Rama said to him .Oh! Elder! How you loveSita more than you love yourself. Come with me and see what really is inyour lovely wife.s heart. Still she could not forget that fellow Ravana.Drawings picture of Ravana on a hand-fan and pressing it closely to herbreast. She is lying on your bed with eyes closed thinking on andrejoicing at Ravana.s glories. Rama sighed and went out to Sita.sapartment. She was found sleeping pressing her breast the hand-fan inwhich Ravana.s picture was drawn. This is found in pages 199, 200 ofBangali Ramayana written by Mrs. Chandravathi.
INCREASING DIVORCE RATES
A DOUBLE EDGED SWORD!
Marriage is one of the oldest social institutions,which has stood the test of time but has undergone a triphasic change over the last few decades,and now its very existence is being threatened by the demon of Divorce
The divorce rate is increasing and this increase is being appreciated in all strata of the society(Chop and change-The Sexes,THE WEEK,September 15,2008)
Though it is a very welcome relief,for the ladies,who often had to continue to be abused,mentally,financially,physically and even sexually in a so called marraige,just for the lack of courage or opportunity to demand and get a Divorce! Today,divorce and even re-marraige are being accepted by the society,and the two major factors that made it possible,are woman empowerment, and financial Independence and the social acceptance.But everything good has a flip side too.The Independence of woman,the ease in getting a divorce and re marraige,are a great deterrent to adjustments,compromises and in fact are redefining the definition of a marraige !
Originally the marriage had fixed water tight roles ,consisting of a man who provided the protection and was almost the master,of his wife who obeyed without questioning his supremacy.
As times passed and poeple became educated,the marriage saw a welcome change of companionship between the spouses with a willing agreement of sharing the responsibilities of the family,in and outside the house
And the third change ,which has recently creeped in,has reduced marriage to a undesireable state of contract of convenience where two independent individuals spend time under the same roof,often supposedly,leading their own lives,without any emotional bond or social obligation,and with ever-ready bags to move out,not only of the house but the life of the spouse.
The major reason of this is the upwardly mobile attitude of man and woman,with career taking over family and money over emotions.The woman is no longer dependent on the man,and either can buy any pleasure in life ,even though temporarily ,by virtue of their money or status.With surrogate mothers and artificial insemination,and easy laws of adoption even the biological reason of reproduction,for marraige has been terminated.
This is however a very sad state of affairs,as independent or single living lasts till one is young,Divorce not only has a unrepairable detremental impact on the kids but leaves the person desperately lonely in old age ,to die alone in an old age home or a five star nursing home!
Every person should work hard in their relationship with their spouse to keep the marriage happily on,and to fight this alarmingly increasing incident of divorce
Dr Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
Marriage is one of the oldest social institutions,which has stood the test of time but has undergone a triphasic change over the last few decades,and now its very existence is being threatened by the demon of Divorce
The divorce rate is increasing and this increase is being appreciated in all strata of the society(Chop and change-The Sexes,THE WEEK,September 15,2008)
Though it is a very welcome relief,for the ladies,who often had to continue to be abused,mentally,financially,physically and even sexually in a so called marraige,just for the lack of courage or opportunity to demand and get a Divorce! Today,divorce and even re-marraige are being accepted by the society,and the two major factors that made it possible,are woman empowerment, and financial Independence and the social acceptance.But everything good has a flip side too.The Independence of woman,the ease in getting a divorce and re marraige,are a great deterrent to adjustments,compromises and in fact are redefining the definition of a marraige !
Originally the marriage had fixed water tight roles ,consisting of a man who provided the protection and was almost the master,of his wife who obeyed without questioning his supremacy.
As times passed and poeple became educated,the marriage saw a welcome change of companionship between the spouses with a willing agreement of sharing the responsibilities of the family,in and outside the house
And the third change ,which has recently creeped in,has reduced marriage to a undesireable state of contract of convenience where two independent individuals spend time under the same roof,often supposedly,leading their own lives,without any emotional bond or social obligation,and with ever-ready bags to move out,not only of the house but the life of the spouse.
The major reason of this is the upwardly mobile attitude of man and woman,with career taking over family and money over emotions.The woman is no longer dependent on the man,and either can buy any pleasure in life ,even though temporarily ,by virtue of their money or status.With surrogate mothers and artificial insemination,and easy laws of adoption even the biological reason of reproduction,for marraige has been terminated.
This is however a very sad state of affairs,as independent or single living lasts till one is young,Divorce not only has a unrepairable detremental impact on the kids but leaves the person desperately lonely in old age ,to die alone in an old age home or a five star nursing home!
Every person should work hard in their relationship with their spouse to keep the marriage happily on,and to fight this alarmingly increasing incident of divorce
Dr Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
Sunday, September 7, 2008
IS INDIA REALLY PROGRESSING ??????????????
JUST ONE SIDE OF THE COIN !!!!!!!!!!!
My heartiest congrtaulations to the institutes and people,contributing in making India work,grow and become a great nation
Bur is India really progressing?
The country is working,and is growing,but there is another side to this story too.areas which are deprived of the growth and shine of the country,and which continue to be in the darkness of backwardness
There is lots to boast of,and lots to show-off!
India is progressing,but without sounding a pessimist or a leftist ,I cannot resist but to say that though progress in every field is being appreciated, this progress is not uniform and not in all spheres and all fields.Growth is welcome,and is being felt too,nationally and internationally but it is not universal!!
Improvement in lifestyle and elevation of standards are not only being seen but are dazzling the eyes,but this improvement is seen in a small section of the country and amongst a very small part of the population
Almost half of the Indian population is still deprived of the basic amenities,like,food,home and drinking water leave alone education,electrification and medical facilities,which also are almost the basic right of every citizen of a so called progressing country!
Even in a city like Delhi,which looks like a model of progress and wealth,the recent census showed that only 7.5% Delhites fall in the upper income group,even when the grading has been made on a very stringent scale ,where to qualify for this elite class one has to fall in the group with a monthly expenditure of just over Rs 3500 per person.This amount is peanuts for Delhi,and is a stark indicator of the struggle ,the majority have to undergo,for survival in Delhi,Mumbai,metros or in most of the cities and villages of India for day to day survival.
IPL matches were a great entertainment,and so are other such lavish events,where we spend over a couple of thousand crores for each,but how much of this goes to the common man.Some people do make a livelihood from these events,but majority goes in the pockets of organizers,sponsers etc,The rich are the actual beneficiaries from such megaevents and projects!
Leave alone the financial and monetary stagnation,a major part of the population and society is affected by social maladies like,child labor,female featicide,selling of daughters,flesh trade,AIDS etc,Can we call ourselves progressed,progressive or even progressing in this scenario?
The rich becoming richer,and Ambanis featuring in the list of top rich people of the world,is no indicator of progress.
We can sleep comfortable only if every Indian has a roof,drinking water,food,electricity ,education and medical aid and above all a safe and healthy society and surrounding to live in
And this is more distant than one can imagine
and can be achieved not only by pumping in of money from the exchequer ,but by fair governance and a responsible role,played by every Indian
So lets join hands,in contributing our little,but significant share,in the progress of our dear country!
Its miles to go,before we sleep . . . . . . . .
Dr Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
My heartiest congrtaulations to the institutes and people,contributing in making India work,grow and become a great nation
Bur is India really progressing?
The country is working,and is growing,but there is another side to this story too.areas which are deprived of the growth and shine of the country,and which continue to be in the darkness of backwardness
There is lots to boast of,and lots to show-off!
India is progressing,but without sounding a pessimist or a leftist ,I cannot resist but to say that though progress in every field is being appreciated, this progress is not uniform and not in all spheres and all fields.Growth is welcome,and is being felt too,nationally and internationally but it is not universal!!
Improvement in lifestyle and elevation of standards are not only being seen but are dazzling the eyes,but this improvement is seen in a small section of the country and amongst a very small part of the population
Almost half of the Indian population is still deprived of the basic amenities,like,food,home and drinking water leave alone education,electrification and medical facilities,which also are almost the basic right of every citizen of a so called progressing country!
Even in a city like Delhi,which looks like a model of progress and wealth,the recent census showed that only 7.5% Delhites fall in the upper income group,even when the grading has been made on a very stringent scale ,where to qualify for this elite class one has to fall in the group with a monthly expenditure of just over Rs 3500 per person.This amount is peanuts for Delhi,and is a stark indicator of the struggle ,the majority have to undergo,for survival in Delhi,Mumbai,metros or in most of the cities and villages of India for day to day survival.
IPL matches were a great entertainment,and so are other such lavish events,where we spend over a couple of thousand crores for each,but how much of this goes to the common man.Some people do make a livelihood from these events,but majority goes in the pockets of organizers,sponsers etc,The rich are the actual beneficiaries from such megaevents and projects!
Leave alone the financial and monetary stagnation,a major part of the population and society is affected by social maladies like,child labor,female featicide,selling of daughters,flesh trade,AIDS etc,Can we call ourselves progressed,progressive or even progressing in this scenario?
The rich becoming richer,and Ambanis featuring in the list of top rich people of the world,is no indicator of progress.
We can sleep comfortable only if every Indian has a roof,drinking water,food,electricity ,education and medical aid and above all a safe and healthy society and surrounding to live in
And this is more distant than one can imagine
and can be achieved not only by pumping in of money from the exchequer ,but by fair governance and a responsible role,played by every Indian
So lets join hands,in contributing our little,but significant share,in the progress of our dear country!
Its miles to go,before we sleep . . . . . . . .
Dr Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
Wednesday, September 3, 2008
INTRAPERSONAL RELATIONSHIP
KNOW YOURSELF,BEFORE LOVING SELF OR OTHERS
Knowing yourself is the initial mandatory requirement, rather than loving oneself, before you start loving someone else.
To love self or to love someone else, it is essential that one knows oneself well, The knowledge of our strengths, our weaknesses, our capability of adjustments, sharing, cooperation and our ability to accept the others is the basic requirement to start any relationship, We must know the expectations we have, if any, in that relationship and our limitations to go into a relationship with someone superior or less privileged than us, without getting complexes
For this, spending time with oneself and analyzing ones own views are a must. Loving self can follow but only after we know ourselves well and this should be done cautiously, Loving oneself without knowing self can be dangerous. Once we start loving ourselves then it becomes difficult to adjust in most relationships. We are then a bit difficult to accept views of others and even healthy criticism
Men are definitely as emotional as women, if not more, and they should not hesitate in expressing it, provided the expressed emotions are genuine, Fake emotions lead to fake relationships. Even fake and halfhearted acceptances and patches can be dangerous for any relationship. Anger though a common emotion, should not be the only one to be expressed to show possessiveness or hurt
Know yourself, know the other and then get into a relationship. Love will automatically follow, But let knowing self and other be a continuous process, Age, time circumstances and commitments keep changing every individual, and accepting these is essential for continuation of any healthy relationship
Knowing yourself is the initial mandatory requirement, rather than loving oneself, before you start loving someone else.
To love self or to love someone else, it is essential that one knows oneself well, The knowledge of our strengths, our weaknesses, our capability of adjustments, sharing, cooperation and our ability to accept the others is the basic requirement to start any relationship, We must know the expectations we have, if any, in that relationship and our limitations to go into a relationship with someone superior or less privileged than us, without getting complexes
For this, spending time with oneself and analyzing ones own views are a must. Loving self can follow but only after we know ourselves well and this should be done cautiously, Loving oneself without knowing self can be dangerous. Once we start loving ourselves then it becomes difficult to adjust in most relationships. We are then a bit difficult to accept views of others and even healthy criticism
Men are definitely as emotional as women, if not more, and they should not hesitate in expressing it, provided the expressed emotions are genuine, Fake emotions lead to fake relationships. Even fake and halfhearted acceptances and patches can be dangerous for any relationship. Anger though a common emotion, should not be the only one to be expressed to show possessiveness or hurt
Know yourself, know the other and then get into a relationship. Love will automatically follow, But let knowing self and other be a continuous process, Age, time circumstances and commitments keep changing every individual, and accepting these is essential for continuation of any healthy relationship
Tuesday, September 2, 2008
KIDS FREE ZONES
Leave the Kids Alone !!!!!!!!!!!!!!
I think we are unnecessarily giving too much importance to the issue of Kids Free Zones.(TOI-Sept,2008)
It seems to be a debateless issue,as both the arguments sound logical!
Being from the army,the concept of kids free zones or parties without children,is nothing new to me.
Kids are not permitted in the army messes during official and regimental functions and in certain messes not permitted in the main complex,at all.Swimming pools ,gyms and other game courts of most clubs have separate timings for kids and adults.
We seem to be over-reacting to the presence of kids and getting into an avoidable debate.
I fully understand the sanctity of official meetings,of the need of undisturbed environment for unwinding and the importance for solitude,during special occasions like a Candle light dinner on a table for two!
At the same time partying without kids,for most of us would really not be fun.Its a pleasure not only spending an evening out with your kids,but just seeing kids around.
The restaurants,resorts,or hotels which are considering this ideas,are as it is the ones where there are always more than one rooms , halls,enclosures or even gardens.People seeking privacy or distance from kids,can be easily be entertained in these areas,without disturbing the existing normal, free for all age set-up.In stead of creating kid free zones,and increasing the problems of parents of nuclear families with small kids,one should create all kids zones,or crèches where the kids are provided the same facilities as the adults,and even help to look after them,within the campus of the restaurant,hotel or club.This would also provide the kids some company and an opportunity to mingle with other kids of their age.
With most kids becoming too choosy as it is as to where they are being taken and with whom,and getting out of the habit of tagging along with parents,I think we should let things be as they are,with just a little more attention to cater to needs of solitude seekers for personal or official purposes
Dr Sanjay Kapoor
I think we are unnecessarily giving too much importance to the issue of Kids Free Zones.(TOI-Sept,2008)
It seems to be a debateless issue,as both the arguments sound logical!
Being from the army,the concept of kids free zones or parties without children,is nothing new to me.
Kids are not permitted in the army messes during official and regimental functions and in certain messes not permitted in the main complex,at all.Swimming pools ,gyms and other game courts of most clubs have separate timings for kids and adults.
We seem to be over-reacting to the presence of kids and getting into an avoidable debate.
I fully understand the sanctity of official meetings,of the need of undisturbed environment for unwinding and the importance for solitude,during special occasions like a Candle light dinner on a table for two!
At the same time partying without kids,for most of us would really not be fun.Its a pleasure not only spending an evening out with your kids,but just seeing kids around.
The restaurants,resorts,or hotels which are considering this ideas,are as it is the ones where there are always more than one rooms , halls,enclosures or even gardens.People seeking privacy or distance from kids,can be easily be entertained in these areas,without disturbing the existing normal, free for all age set-up.In stead of creating kid free zones,and increasing the problems of parents of nuclear families with small kids,one should create all kids zones,or crèches where the kids are provided the same facilities as the adults,and even help to look after them,within the campus of the restaurant,hotel or club.This would also provide the kids some company and an opportunity to mingle with other kids of their age.
With most kids becoming too choosy as it is as to where they are being taken and with whom,and getting out of the habit of tagging along with parents,I think we should let things be as they are,with just a little more attention to cater to needs of solitude seekers for personal or official purposes
Dr Sanjay Kapoor
TODAY'S RAUNCHY CULTURE
The New Female Avtar
The sexuality and seductiveness of women,of this land of Maneka and Kamasutra,has existed from time immorable.
It had been suppressed over the last few decades by the male dominated social taboos.
What is happening today,(Who's Afraid of SEX ? (Cover story),THE WEEK,Sept 7,2008 )is just a revival of the ancient sensuality on the females
Thanks to the innumerable coffee-table magazines,replete with articles on sex,the woman of today has suddenly recognized her much ignored sexual desires and requirements,and want to experiment it all. These desires are as natural as those of the male ,and need to be addressed with efforts by all men.
Male strip tease kitty parties,pornography in girls hostel,and even male prostitution is on the rise,and women of all ages would like to experiment their newly acquired skills with their permanent or temporary partners.
Gone are the days when women were talking just of foreplay,today the stress is on afterplay too,with Woman On Top,being the mantra of the day!. The men have to work hard today,to get rid of their bang-bang-thank-you-maam tendency,to give their bedtime story a happy ending and they better beware and pull up their socks to master and improve their bedtime skills if they want their heroines not to step out,looking for it ,in other peoples bedroom.
Besides becoming aware of their sexuality and sexual needs,woman have also obtained the expertise and learned the tricks of trade,to enjoy this beautiful emotion of sex,and are ready to demand and even buy it,if needed.
They have also realized the worth of their body,looks,figure,and sex appeal and want to encash on it,to the maximum.
And why not ? Why should the God's gift and the acquired skill go a waste or be used free ??
A very warm welcome to the raunchy female of today,on behalf of all the ogling hungry men!
Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
The sexuality and seductiveness of women,of this land of Maneka and Kamasutra,has existed from time immorable.
It had been suppressed over the last few decades by the male dominated social taboos.
What is happening today,(Who's Afraid of SEX ? (Cover story),THE WEEK,Sept 7,2008 )is just a revival of the ancient sensuality on the females
Thanks to the innumerable coffee-table magazines,replete with articles on sex,the woman of today has suddenly recognized her much ignored sexual desires and requirements,and want to experiment it all. These desires are as natural as those of the male ,and need to be addressed with efforts by all men.
Male strip tease kitty parties,pornography in girls hostel,and even male prostitution is on the rise,and women of all ages would like to experiment their newly acquired skills with their permanent or temporary partners.
Gone are the days when women were talking just of foreplay,today the stress is on afterplay too,with Woman On Top,being the mantra of the day!. The men have to work hard today,to get rid of their bang-bang-thank-you-maam tendency,to give their bedtime story a happy ending and they better beware and pull up their socks to master and improve their bedtime skills if they want their heroines not to step out,looking for it ,in other peoples bedroom.
Besides becoming aware of their sexuality and sexual needs,woman have also obtained the expertise and learned the tricks of trade,to enjoy this beautiful emotion of sex,and are ready to demand and even buy it,if needed.
They have also realized the worth of their body,looks,figure,and sex appeal and want to encash on it,to the maximum.
And why not ? Why should the God's gift and the acquired skill go a waste or be used free ??
A very warm welcome to the raunchy female of today,on behalf of all the ogling hungry men!
Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
Monday, September 1, 2008
TEENAGE EXPERIMENTAL SEX
Experimental Sex!!!!!!!!!!!
Was really shocked at the Times View on their report,"SC convicts boy for sex with 16-yr-old girlfriend"
TOI reported that SC has granted three years of imprisonment to a boy,now man,who ran away with his 16 year old girl friend and had sex with her and was charged with rape,as sex even with consent with minor amounts to rape!
TOI in their view seem to disagree with the SC and feel that the "legal system should take a more lenient view towards consensual sex between teenagers-specially those their late teens,as in this case."They further go to support their view with the logic that "Sexual awareness-and experimentation-is on the rise among Indian teenagers!"
I had really welcomed the Times View ,started recently,where TOI gives its opinion on news,specially on page 1 and had almost always found it to be very reasonable,impartial,logical and progressive.But was actually taken aback today reading this view,which is a very irresponsible statement!
Awareness and Experimentation are two contradictory aspects of sex.A teenager who is actually aware of sex and sexuality will never experiment on sexual issues prematurely and definitely not in teens.Leave alone in India,but in any country,sex amongst teenagers cannot be overlooked,leave alone being encouraged.I feel the man should have been given the seven years punishment that he deserved,which was decreased on the plea of the girls father.A stern punishment would have been some deterrent to others to refrain from such activities.The relaxation may however would have been justified,had the two married subsequently,though no mention of this has been made in the report
Teenage sex is no sign of progression,rather of regression and is an indicator of uneducated and irresponsible teenagers who can be a threat to the integrity of the normal fiber of the society.This premature sexual indulgence has to be condoned by all,and all steps ought to be taken to ensure that teenagers refrain from such experimentation! Everything has a time,and anything done outside the time frame,has ill effects.Leave alone the ethical or moral issues,it is dangerous on medical grounds too,as it may lead to unwanted pregnancies,promiscuity,a casual attitude to sex and sex partners,risks of sexually transmitted diseases and increase in the rate of sex crimes
Without sounding idealistic,I dont want to believe that these things don't exists,but giving them a social and even a legal sanction is unimaginable.Hence it is the moral duty of each one of us,as a parent,a teacher,an elder,and media to impart sex education to every child to understand the importance of sex and the demerits of untimely sexual indulgence.Every teenager should be made sexually aware,to handle his or her sexuality judiciously,rather than indulge in experimental sex!
Dr Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
Was really shocked at the Times View on their report,"SC convicts boy for sex with 16-yr-old girlfriend"
TOI reported that SC has granted three years of imprisonment to a boy,now man,who ran away with his 16 year old girl friend and had sex with her and was charged with rape,as sex even with consent with minor amounts to rape!
TOI in their view seem to disagree with the SC and feel that the "legal system should take a more lenient view towards consensual sex between teenagers-specially those their late teens,as in this case."They further go to support their view with the logic that "Sexual awareness-and experimentation-is on the rise among Indian teenagers!"
I had really welcomed the Times View ,started recently,where TOI gives its opinion on news,specially on page 1 and had almost always found it to be very reasonable,impartial,logical and progressive.But was actually taken aback today reading this view,which is a very irresponsible statement!
Awareness and Experimentation are two contradictory aspects of sex.A teenager who is actually aware of sex and sexuality will never experiment on sexual issues prematurely and definitely not in teens.Leave alone in India,but in any country,sex amongst teenagers cannot be overlooked,leave alone being encouraged.I feel the man should have been given the seven years punishment that he deserved,which was decreased on the plea of the girls father.A stern punishment would have been some deterrent to others to refrain from such activities.The relaxation may however would have been justified,had the two married subsequently,though no mention of this has been made in the report
Teenage sex is no sign of progression,rather of regression and is an indicator of uneducated and irresponsible teenagers who can be a threat to the integrity of the normal fiber of the society.This premature sexual indulgence has to be condoned by all,and all steps ought to be taken to ensure that teenagers refrain from such experimentation! Everything has a time,and anything done outside the time frame,has ill effects.Leave alone the ethical or moral issues,it is dangerous on medical grounds too,as it may lead to unwanted pregnancies,promiscuity,a casual attitude to sex and sex partners,risks of sexually transmitted diseases and increase in the rate of sex crimes
Without sounding idealistic,I dont want to believe that these things don't exists,but giving them a social and even a legal sanction is unimaginable.Hence it is the moral duty of each one of us,as a parent,a teacher,an elder,and media to impart sex education to every child to understand the importance of sex and the demerits of untimely sexual indulgence.Every teenager should be made sexually aware,to handle his or her sexuality judiciously,rather than indulge in experimental sex!
Dr Sanjay Kapoor Lucknow
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